Careful mate. I advise not going to women in real life about insecurities it's incredibly off putting to them. More so when you act paranoid around them. She'll never admit that she finds it off putting either so you're putting her in a bad position which she won't like. What women doesn't like complaining?
Just remember men and women are wired differently, women hate hearing men complaining, where as men don't mind it if we can fix it like Bob the builder. If a women starts complaining to me about another women I'll be a sarcastic asshole to her.
If you have issues work on them but don't drag women into it, they just aren't equipped that way man, they'll appreciate you for it.