Things That Are on Your Mind

[Fraxinus]

So...

Last night I accidentally stumbled across someone's self-insert ship art with a character I really care about. This is the kind of thing that usually trips my anxiety so hard, but something interesting happened last night. I didn't react at all--my heart rate and body temperature didn't change at all. I'm thinking about it today, because that's honestly a really huge moment for me. That uh, time does fix things.

It's especially empowering given some of the recent anxiety attacks I've been dealing with and my recurrent fear of people in fandoms mucking with it more than it should be. Moving on is something I can do, and I learned that last night.

 

[Uwu_Oocoo2]

A friend of mine invited me and 7 other people I know to a sorta holiday get together in a couple weeks. I really can't decide if I want to go or not. Like, I like and know all of them, but with her parents and siblings that's upwards of 14 people and I'm not great at social gatherings. I always feel bad because I don't really talk to anyone and then everyone thinks I'm having a bad time. Plus if there's food people get mad at me for not eating anything. I feel like it'd probably be fun, but I know if I go I'm just gonna be awkward and quiet the whole time.

 

[Morbid Minish]

A friend of mine invited me and 7 other people I know to a sorta holiday get together in a couple weeks. I really can't decide if I want to go or not. Like, I like and know all of them, but with her parents and siblings that's upwards of 14 people and I'm not great at social gatherings. I always feel bad because I don't really talk to anyone and then everyone thinks I'm having a bad time. Plus if there's food people get mad at me for not eating anything. I feel like it'd probably be fun, but I know if I go I'm just gonna be awkward and quiet the whole time.

If you'd have fun then go! I'm sure the others will have fun as well. And if you're having fun, then there's no reason you don't have to be quiet and awkward!

 

[Mamono101]

I wonder if there’ll be a Mario movie tie-in game?

 

[Azure Sage]

I've got CPR training tomorrow. Another thing I've wanted to learn for forever. Looking forward to it.

 

[Link&Midna]

It's funny to me how mfs always wanna say stuff like "if men aren't entitled to sex, then women aren't entitled to friendship" but never "if a man's only goal with a woman is a romantic/sexual relationship, he should make that known from the start." Cus I see so many butthurt men complaining about women who don't want to be more than friends as if they're just using the men for attention, but none of them seem able to comprehend that someone of the opposite sex would want to spend time with them/enjoy their company without being objectified. Saw one online today say friendship with women is pointless if they're not getting sex out of it, while another insisted it isn't, because "the friend zone isn't static, it's a path you walk together" and "often my female friends will get horny when drunk anyway, so it's worth it, you just have to wait." And then men have the audacity to wonder why women are weary of them.

 

[Fraxinus]

sounds like they want the perks of a one night stand but want the person in their life for more than one night. which you know there are women out there who want that same sort of thing but they move on much faster than men lol.

idk why they;re expecting a long term relationship out of that sort of thing cuz that does require more of a foundation than just a hookup? idk it just sounds like a commitment issue or our culture prioritizes the wrong aspects of relationships to screw up people's standards/expectations

 

[ExLight]

Most men obsessed with body count are usually extremely insecure losers looking for any sort of reassurance.

Society pushes for some pretty ****ed up ideas regarding sexual partners. The idea girls monopolize sex based on superfluous stuff, and so getting laid with them is a form of status, is p much the base of all sorts of toxic male mentalities, be it incel, pick-up artist, or alpha males.

 

[twilitfalchion]

Feels like as the days go by I'm waking up every day not feeling the least bit rested even when I actively make efforts to set up a proper sleep schedule.

 

[Vanessa28]

My daily steps are going up. From 12000 to 22000 and to 27000 and now 32000...
So many miles I walk daily because of work. I could participate in a walking marathon if this continues

 

[Echolight]

I'm so thankful for my mom. I had been feeling pretty bad all day and I had gone back to bed like right after I got up this morning, and had been bundling up in like 4 blankets. I felt so cold but it's the kinda cold you get when your fever goes up, and it just gets worse. But my mom came in awhile ago and took my temperature and looked concerned. It turned out my temperature was 105, which can actually be very dangerous. So she got me to take all the blankets off and wiped my forehead/neck/shoulders with a cool, damp washcloth and I immediately began to feel better. At first it was so uncomfortable because it was so cold, but as my temperature went down my body finally realized how heated I was and I began to feel very hot and sweaty. And the last temperature check I was 103, but it might have gone down since then.

But I'm so thankful my mom took care of me when I literally couldn't move that much and I felt so exhausted. I'm glad she took my blankets off, even while at the time I still would've wanted them on. But now I'm feeling a lot better and it's thanks to her refilling my water bottle and giving me a hydrating drink and wiping a damp cloth on my face and constantly checking on me.

I'm on the couch now and I still feel bad but it's definitely an improvement from before <3

 

[Fraxinus]

feeling kind of lousy. just feels like people dont care about the stuff i care about and im alone.

 

[Fraxinus]

Dumb double post but idc

Reflecting on some of the stuff that happened in the SB tonight and I need to put this someplace. So here goes.

I love y'all here at ZD. Most of you know I'm currently working on a story. But you know, if I ever actually finish it, chances are I won't share it here. It's deeply personal and I'd feel too vulnerable posting it. I'm writing it for myself more than anyone. But that doesn't mean I don't trust nor care about any of you. I choose which parts of myself I want to share, the same way all of you do. And that's cool. Love and respect, guys.

 

[TheGreatCthulhu]

Mainly how I approach reviews in general. When I write any review, I do intend to write a positive review. It's only when glaring problems arise do I begin the vitriol and start to roast whatever I'm reviewing.

I had reviews on my mind because I'm looking to do another unbiased guitar gear review. Question is, what do I review?

 

[LegendOfMeesh]

my cousin, who I’m super close with, just had to put her 10 year old cat down, very suddenly. so heartbroken for her. just sitting on the phone crying with her