Shadsie
Sage of Tales
Lately, there's the same kind of article I've been seeing around news sites and advice blogs, over and over again:
"Tips for getting along with your relatives this holiday," or "How to handle holiday stress from your relatives."
And all I can think about is "Have we become so disconnected as a society, so wrapped up in ourselves that the things that were originally meant to be fun and togetherness have turned into an annoyance, a mere obligation for people?"
All I can think in answer to that is "Yes," but on a personal level, I don't get it, or at least, I feel weird because I actually *LIKE* the people I spend holidays with.
In the last several years, that's been my fiancee' and his adult nephew. We typically get together on Thanksgiving (since the nephew has other family that hijacks him for Christmas) and we basically geek-out. We have food, we watch movies and anime, play video games, and make a whole lot of inside jokes about our geek hobbies and other things that can get downright (but delightfully) bizarre. I'm in my bedroom now, but earlier, I was in the living room just talking about random stuff with them and were basically were laughing and carrying on like drunken idiots without a drop of booze in the house!
Okay, so my guy's nephew is fond of telling us that he enjoys hanging out with us while his other set of relatives is a chore because none of them are geek-types and they tend to put him on babysitting duty for the younger cousins, but still... Holidays from my end of the things seem to be very much enjoyment.
Back when I was a kid, too... with my natural family I've not seen for years... Back when my grandmother was alive (she was basically our matriarch), my family had extended-family get-togethers and I'd always look foward to seeing my sweet grandma and playing magical cheerleaders in the backyard and dressing up our cats in baby clothes and other weird stuff kids in my family used to do with my cousins. Even as we got older and folks in my family started drifting apart (after my grandmother died), even as I got to a point where I feared for my life from my psycho-abusive older brother (not an exagerration, I moved to an opposite coast to be with my fiancee' for reasons besides just love)... on holidays, at least parts of my family could gather together and actually enjoy each other's company. (My brother, though psycho, was very proud of his barbeque skills and would calm down and become personable when people ate his cooking).
I don't know. With all the news articles about "How to talk sense into your stupid relatives when they start to talk politics" and "How to survive your family this season" - I feel weird that I actually LIKE people I spend time with for holidays and always have, even when those people have changed. Is there anyone in the world, whether their family is born-into or chosen who actually likes said family or am I just lucky?
"Tips for getting along with your relatives this holiday," or "How to handle holiday stress from your relatives."
And all I can think about is "Have we become so disconnected as a society, so wrapped up in ourselves that the things that were originally meant to be fun and togetherness have turned into an annoyance, a mere obligation for people?"
All I can think in answer to that is "Yes," but on a personal level, I don't get it, or at least, I feel weird because I actually *LIKE* the people I spend holidays with.
In the last several years, that's been my fiancee' and his adult nephew. We typically get together on Thanksgiving (since the nephew has other family that hijacks him for Christmas) and we basically geek-out. We have food, we watch movies and anime, play video games, and make a whole lot of inside jokes about our geek hobbies and other things that can get downright (but delightfully) bizarre. I'm in my bedroom now, but earlier, I was in the living room just talking about random stuff with them and were basically were laughing and carrying on like drunken idiots without a drop of booze in the house!
Okay, so my guy's nephew is fond of telling us that he enjoys hanging out with us while his other set of relatives is a chore because none of them are geek-types and they tend to put him on babysitting duty for the younger cousins, but still... Holidays from my end of the things seem to be very much enjoyment.
Back when I was a kid, too... with my natural family I've not seen for years... Back when my grandmother was alive (she was basically our matriarch), my family had extended-family get-togethers and I'd always look foward to seeing my sweet grandma and playing magical cheerleaders in the backyard and dressing up our cats in baby clothes and other weird stuff kids in my family used to do with my cousins. Even as we got older and folks in my family started drifting apart (after my grandmother died), even as I got to a point where I feared for my life from my psycho-abusive older brother (not an exagerration, I moved to an opposite coast to be with my fiancee' for reasons besides just love)... on holidays, at least parts of my family could gather together and actually enjoy each other's company. (My brother, though psycho, was very proud of his barbeque skills and would calm down and become personable when people ate his cooking).
I don't know. With all the news articles about "How to talk sense into your stupid relatives when they start to talk politics" and "How to survive your family this season" - I feel weird that I actually LIKE people I spend time with for holidays and always have, even when those people have changed. Is there anyone in the world, whether their family is born-into or chosen who actually likes said family or am I just lucky?