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I'm feeling like **** for no good reason, but I gotta let it out so I'll just rewrite what happened to relieve the stress a bit.
I work with this German lady who is pretty much one of the best people I've ever had the pleasure of meeting and especially working with. She is always happy, always talkative even when sick. She's basically my role model in the workplace and as a citizen. Two weeks ago, she gave me a gift card for chick-fil-a (a chicken place here in the USA). It basically was a free lunch. I didn't want to take it, but I don't tell her "no". So I took it and got free lunch. Well according to my code of honor, if someone gives me something I'll give back to them provided it's a good thing. I couldn't produce a free gift card as I didn't and still don't know what she prefers to eat. So I waited for a while.
I came into work today around 2:30pm feeling pretty great. helped a lady get an item to her car and had to play a jigsaw puzzle for a good 15 minutes. she tipped me $5 for the trouble. later on the lady I work with came into work. we are working and I went to my lunch break around 7. I found her and tried to give her the $5, because that's how much the lunch was. She told me to keep it, but I tried to press it forward. She looked at me dead in the eyes and said "do not challenge me. I am double age. you do not compete with me" and I froze up. That justification is the worst justification in the world, because it makes whoever the target is feel tiny and helpless. It's what a parent would use when their kid is trying to pay them back. I totally understand where she is coming from, that's her ghira. She is like a mother to me, really. But I can't deal with having debts. I almost started crying. For the rest of the day, I just had this empty feeling in my stomach. again I get why she won't let me pay her back. But that justification really made me feel like completely emasculated.
blog post over, I'll get over it after playing DS3, BO3, and TPHD.
Well that sounds pretty aggressive it seems. You just wanted to repay a kindness, not engage in a challenge. I learned when someone does you a favor, you do something for them, unless they refuse which in case you're don't need to do anything. It's nice that you want to repay her back, but sometimes people don't need, or want to be payed back.
Yeah that would throw me off a little too. Should have told her you aren't playing games or making a challenge.
