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Out of curiosity, how difficult was it to get a license as an adult? I'm currently stressing about trying to find time to work toward mine, but I also need to work into my mom's schedule on top of my own for sessions and it's super overwhelming. Did you take a class or anything to get more experience on the road?
 

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I completely understand how you feel! Thankfully no one ever pushed me into driving, because I also had a fear of it and likely would have been near/full on panic attack at the time. I came to the decision on my own and only got my license last year at 28 years old. I've always had dreams throughout my life about crashing into water though, and when I'm in a car near water I have intrusive thoughts about the car driving into the water. So it really took me a long time to become comfortable with the idea of driving and I had to do it on my own. I only recently started driving some on my own (and not very far), and have gotten comfortable and used to it. I actually enjoy driving on my own now. It gives me a feeling of independence which is nice. I still do have some fears occasionally that creep up and I do still have the dreams and intrusive thoughts. But the first few times especially of driving are the hardest. It will eventually get a bit easier, and less scary. Though I don't promise those fears will ever truly go away. And I don't know how your parents are, but driving with them may not help either. My mom makes me a lot more anxious because she is a big backseat driver and likes to tell me conflicting things or act like I'm doing something wrong when I'm not just because she doesn't like when others are driving.

I'm sorry that you were made to do that when you were anxious and scared. Maybe ask if you can practice driving around empty parking lots first or something before being thrust out on the road.
have you ever thought about moving somewhere without any water?
 

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I completely understand how you feel! Thankfully no one ever pushed me into driving, because I also had a fear of it and likely would have been near/full on panic attack at the time. I came to the decision on my own and only got my license last year at 28 years old. I've always had dreams throughout my life about crashing into water though, and when I'm in a car near water I have intrusive thoughts about the car driving into the water. So it really took me a long time to become comfortable with the idea of driving and I had to do it on my own. I only recently started driving some on my own (and not very far), and have gotten comfortable and used to it. I actually enjoy driving on my own now. It gives me a feeling of independence which is nice. I still do have some fears occasionally that creep up and I do still have the dreams and intrusive thoughts. But the first few times especially of driving are the hardest. It will eventually get a bit easier, and less scary. Though I don't promise those fears will ever truly go away. And I don't know how your parents are, but driving with them may not help either. My mom makes me a lot more anxious because she is a big backseat driver and likes to tell me conflicting things or act like I'm doing something wrong when I'm not just because she doesn't like when others are driving.

I'm sorry that you were made to do that when you were anxious and scared. Maybe ask if you can practice driving around empty parking lots first or something before being thrust out on the road.
Good for you to make the decision yourself <3

I've had anxiety about hitting the cars going in the opposite lane for a long time. Ever since I was a little kid actually. Whenever we pass a car going super fast I tense up. It just seems so easy to accidentally go too far left and scrape against the car going the opposite direction. When I was driving I worried so much about staying inside the lane and not going over the yellow line. So much so that I accidentally went too far right and almost hit a mailbox.

I know as I drive more it'll get easier and feel more natural, but man it's hard to start. I really really don't want to drive again lol

My parents don't do anything like that, they encourage me and stuff, but just having them in the car and being my responsibility to keep them safe and not crash is nerve-wracking enough.

I'd definitely prefer that for my first few drives.
 

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Out of curiosity, how difficult was it to get a license as an adult? I'm currently stressing about trying to find time to work toward mine, but I also need to work into my mom's schedule on top of my own for sessions and it's super overwhelming. Did you take a class or anything to get more experience on the road?
It was actually super easy, but I'm not sure if my experience was an anomaly or what. I had my permit for quite a while because I took the written test some years back (I was maybe 24? or something, still way past the normal age but long before I got my license). I just kept renewing that whenever it would become out of date. I didn't start driving when I got my permit though. It was sometime later. And I never really practiced driving until right before the pandemic. I would only get to drive out to town on Saturdays with my mom when we would go grocery shopping since she didn't have time to teach me any other time with work. Then when the pandemic hit I stopped because I wasn't going out. I practiced a little bit before I had my scheduled test. And had my mom take me down to an empty church parking lot the weekend before my test to teach me backing up better because I was bad at that. And then she taught me parallel parking in our back driveway. The test ended up being super easy and quick. Way different than I expected and didn't have half of the stuff I was expecting. I drove around a small circle of sideroads in the city the test was in. And had to demonstrate parallel parking beside the side walk with plenty of room.

I'm not sure if the instructor just saw that I was 28, and I was following all of the rules, etc because she seemed pretty lenient as far as what she made me do and the test had to have only lasted 5 minutes I'd say. I never did any extra courses, didn't do drivers ed in school or anything, and I just did minimum practice with my mom when I could because she had a limited schedule when she could teach me.

have you ever thought about moving somewhere without any water?
Nah.
Haven't thought about moving at all tbh. Lol.


Good for you to make the decision yourself <3

I've had anxiety about hitting the cars going in the opposite lane for a long time. Ever since I was a little kid actually. Whenever we pass a car going super fast I tense up. It just seems so easy to accidentally go too far left and scrape against the car going the opposite direction. When I was driving I worried so much about staying inside the lane and not going over the yellow line. So much so that I accidentally went too far right and almost hit a mailbox.

I know as I drive more it'll get easier and feel more natural, but man it's hard to start. I really really don't want to drive again lol

My parents don't do anything like that, they encourage me and stuff, but just having them in the car and being my responsibility to keep them safe and not crash is nerve-wracking enough.

I'd definitely prefer that for my first few drives.
Yeah, that was one of my fears as well and I had some moments where I would go a bit too far over to edge of the road because I was scared of going over the yellow line. It's definitely hard to think about how we're trusted to drive these big pieces of machinery that can cause so much devastation if something goes wrong. The fact that you're aware of how much responsibility you have while driving is good though, you just have to watch out for others because not everyone else thinks the same.

Driving in an empty parking lot helped me a lot at first. Just to get the feel of the car down better. So you're familiar with how it controls and you don't have to worry about hitting anyone if you accidentally cross over too far.
 
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Congrats Echo!
I've had anxiety about hitting the cars going in the opposite lane for a long time. Ever since I was a little kid actually. Whenever we pass a car going super fast I tense up. It just seems so easy to accidentally go too far left and scrape against the car going the opposite direction. When I was driving I worried so much about staying inside the lane and not going over the yellow line. So much so that I accidentally went too far right and almost hit a mailbox.
Lol yeah I've had this problem too, it's a weird illusion type thing. Thing is, even if you can feel the reflectors under your wheel, you're still not super likely to hit oncoming traffic, so it's not as close as it seems. Just something I've observed
 

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Congrats Echo!
Lol yeah I've had this problem too, it's a weird illusion type thing. Thing is, even if you can feel the reflectors under your wheel, you're still not super likely to hit oncoming traffic, so it's not as close as it seems. Just something I've observed
Fun fact, the width of an average lane is about 12 feet.

The width of the average car is about 5 to 6 feet.

So it is an optical illusion, the cars seem closer than they actually are.

Good for you to make the decision yourself <3

I've had anxiety about hitting the cars going in the opposite lane for a long time. Ever since I was a little kid actually. Whenever we pass a car going super fast I tense up. It just seems so easy to accidentally go too far left and scrape against the car going the opposite direction. When I was driving I worried so much about staying inside the lane and not going over the yellow line. So much so that I accidentally went too far right and almost hit a mailbox.

I know as I drive more it'll get easier and feel more natural, but man it's hard to start. I really really don't want to drive again lol

My parents don't do anything like that, they encourage me and stuff, but just having them in the car and being my responsibility to keep them safe and not crash is nerve-wracking enough.

I'd definitely prefer that for my first few drives.
If this helps, the most common places to get in an accident are parking lots and intersections.

Funny thing though, most car accidents happen near around the home, and most commonly, the accident happened because someone was driving too fast.

As I've gotten older, I started obeying the posted speed limit more closely, because in the grand scheme of things, you don't save much time by speeding, maybe under the ideal conditions you save like 2 minutes, but when you're driving, there's always traffic, so any time you could have saved by speeding is rendered null and void.
 

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Today is birth. It's weird to think I'm 27 and getting closer to 30. :sweating: the passage of time is never-ending...

Today I will cook shrimp risotto and grilled fish to celebrate. My dad is getting whole steamed crabs too. Gonna be gud.
Yo happy birthday have a good one!!!
 

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Just watched the gameplay reveal for Starfield, it looks interesting, but I'm not sure if it is something I would like. I mean it at least sounds like it's going to have a lot of content since you can explore entire planets, and there are like 100 systems of planets you can find. Of course whether each planet will be unique and worth exploring is an entirely different story, but that would be the hope from this game.

Anyway this got me thinking, if you can explore a whole planet in this game, it would be great if they let us explore each continent of Tamriel in TES VI. Maybe that is unrealistic, but I think it could be a cool feature. Also they should bring back levitation – you can fly around on a jetpack in Starfield, so it seems like they no longer are using individual cells for locations that would mess up seamless levitation across the map.
 
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