I see what you mean but on a related note, I hate when someone you know dies and people say 'I'm sorry'. I mean, did you murder that person? No? Then what on earth are you saying sorry for? But then there's no acceptable alternative either so I see your point.
I think people should be able to understand that when you say "sorry" in those kinds of circumstances, you're simply stating your sympathy and not trying to apologize for something you did.
Topic - Really directed lights bother me. Like, on my brother's desk, he has this one lamp that just illuminates the short area nearby, and for some reason I can't stand that. I'd much rather have turned on a source of light that illuminates the entire room. Not entirely sure why I'm so bothered by something that trivial, though.