There is no questioning that. I would go as far as saying that it should have come sooner, but what's done is done. That chapter has long since come and gone.
The problem we have, then, is when we have a similar user straddling that line, but is also in a staff position. What should we do about those users? Should we continue to let them operate in a gray area and drive off potential users from the community with their toxic arguments? Should we let them continue to derail threads and spread resentment to the rest of the community, and therefore poison the well further? What is the fair course of action in that particular instance?
JJ, while an example of someone who was indeed a toxic member of the community, never held a staff position, and rightly so. While others saw him as a troublemaker, the thing we forget about reputations is that reputations are things of our own creation. Through his own behavior, he ultimately earned the reputation and the resentment he received from the rest of the community. Sure, it could be argued that at some points, there was a degree of bias from both staff and members regarding him, but that doesn't excuse his actions at all, nor should it excuse anyone else. This is especially true for those who are in staff positions.
Staff members of all kinds carry the reputation of the community on their shoulders. When they are allowed to engage in behavior that hurts the reputation of ZD and therefore its brand, then we have a problem. We should treat everybody fairly, but we also cannot allow members to operate in a gray area any longer. It's fine if a member wants to be a contrarian. No one is out to silence opinions or censor beliefs. It's when these opinions or beliefs cannot be expressed in a way that is conducive to a proper, productive discussion that we have problems.
I'd really like to leave the past in the past. Past staff, past issues, past problems... leave it all be. SHouldn't have bearing on the future. I will say however that discussion on expansion or should I say, clairification of the rules has come up and it seems like something the staff is open too. This may indeed help eliminate some of the toxic behavior. I don't think a position of someone (staff or otherwise) will be an issue. If say, Matt was temporarly banned and he quit and stopped working on the Wiki - it would be a blow to the Wiki, but everyone is replaceable. I hate thinking that way - but it's true. Anytime someone is volunteering their time to do stuff, when you're at the top you have to realize that volunteer may not be here doing this forever and you have to have the ability to replace them should that occur. But really, a temp ban of Matt in this situation shouldn't lead to him leaving the wiki. There is so little wiki crossover to the boards right now that these boards have very little to do with what he does - even as he wants to make it so. Currently it doesn't.
But this is just a hypothetical. Not saying anyone really needs to be banned at all. But certainly we can make certain behavior patterns easier to manage moving forward.
I think that banning someone for the sole reason that other people don't like their behavior is rather unfair and doesn't stop people from behaving in that way in the future. I think it would be much more productive and fair if we look at our rules and decide to change something in them about that behavior if said behavior is having a negative effect on the community. This way nobody gets banned without breaking any rules and the person gets a fair chance to change their behavior knowing what the consequences are, plus it would be set that anybody else that behaves that way in the future would know that their behavior would have consequences.
Indeed. You need to treat the cause, not the symptom. This is what rules are really for in the first place. They take lay out behavior patterns that are acceptable and unacceptable. People will always straddle the line, but if you move that line further and further away from truly toxic behavior, you're going to have far less issues.
I'm afraid that comes from people stubbornly refusing to even listen to a word I said in the first place. Very, very often I have to repeat a point because someone else repeats something else I had already refuted before several times, so I have to again. They just keep going on. And then, as usual, I'm singled out as the repetitive one. Even though I'm not really doing anything that extraordinary. It's only natural people try to repeat a point subconsciously to drive it home when it's obvious people never listened the FIRST TIME before it was repeated.
The thing is, repeating yourself is simply redundant. If they didn't listen the first time, they wont the 3rd, 8th, 21st time either because they either don't understand what you said, or they frankly don't care. Repeating yourself gets you nowhere. Just the hard truth.
Easier said than done. You can't forget a past that keeps chasing you and people won't leave it alone. You can't simple ignore slander when, before you respond, people are nodding their head along in agreement with the ridiculousness being spewed. Everyone ought to have the right to defend themselves when someone else is issuing personal attacks. Particularly when the staff chooses to not intervene, all while they go after me for a non-issue that wasn't even hurting anyone.
This time, I'm ignoring the rest not because of relevancy, but because what you outline here is all that is really worth me addressing. You claim you can't ignore slander. You can't ignore when people try to bad talk you. I get that. Here is the thing - you absolutely can. You don't think people bad talk me? That I haven't had users at ZI go out of their way to trash me? Heck, I've had people threaten to kill me - threaten to kill my children, and yes they knew my address and could naturally do something if they really wanted too. Of course they didn't, because that requires getting off the computer and to stop hiding behind it. A lot harder to carry out threats against people when you aren't willing to do anything but threaten.
The point I am making is that you DO CONTROL YOUR OWN RESPONSES AND BEHAVIOR. It is natural to want to defend yourself, but sometimes the best course of defense is to prove them wrong not by replying and disagreeing, but by simply not doing the behaviors they accuse you of. Often when you response (since I have been here), you've been confirming their concerns. A thread got locked specifically because of derailment you started. That's... not good. What I am getting at here is that you can never control what people say about you - but you do control how you act towards it. If I let people over the internet really get to me - I would have stopped doing what I do a decade ago (I'm almost at this for 20 years now). The best response is none at all - it's to almost ALWAYS stop trying to directly defend yourself and simply let your actions speak to that defense. Don't do what they say you do, and it's not a problem.
As an example, sometimes you have to consider that if what your doing seems to be upsetting so many - maybe do some self reflection. You may feel you've done no wrong, but you're only considering your side. Reality is - your actions, whether perceived correctly or not, made others feel uncomfortable with you. Why is that? What could you have done differently to chanage that viewpoint?
These are the things YOU control and no one else. The hardest thing to do is accept the fact that maybe when someone speaks bad about you, they have a point and something you cna learn from that beyond needlessly defending yourself. And Matt, as one guy who use to get caught up in this to another - defending yourself only ever makes you look worse. So stop doing it. It's not helping you. I stopped doing it ages ago. I'm done apologizing. I take what they say, I reflect, and I adjust moving forward and hope that my actions show that's not who I am anymore.
I had a bad reputation coming to these boards. No surprise, really. I earned it I suppose. But I am hoping my actions show different. I wont' defend myself, I'll simply show that's not who I am anymore.