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How Important is Socialising to You?

Justac00lguy

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A psychological theory basically categories people into two types -- Introverts and Extroverts.

Now by theory, introverts tend to be more reluctant to social situations and vice versa with extroverts. So basing off this, if you're an introvert then you socialising may not be as important to you.

However, this is just a theory at the end of the day, a person may be self reluctant but then again crave to socialise in every day life. So, just in your general life, how important is socialising to you? Maybe it might be important because you like to communicate with friends, maybe you need it for a certain job etc. Or maybe you don't need any socialising at all to fulfill your personal needs?
 

Ventus

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Socializing is a hugely meh thing. I do it if I'm feeling lonely, but it isn't a priority - evidenced by my being on DGN 24/7 rather than in clubs doing the hip cool thing. ;p

Seriously. I don't NEED to socialize. It's just good to do if you're feeling lonely.
 

Lord Vain

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Socializing? It's of some importance to me, but since I grew up in solitude it doesn't play a major role in my life really, I only ever socialize when at work or while in the company of friends or family. Since I am accustomed to and alright with being alone I don't exactly go out and try to find more people to socialize with, I'm comfortable with where I stand in regards to such things, if there's somebody I want to hang out with I will try to hang out with them but otherwise I'm fine with being on my own.
 
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Talking to others is important. But i prefer doing it through text. Talking in person isn't that important to me. I will do it with friends and family for sake of fitting in but I like nothing better is to stay by myself.
 

misskitten

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I kinda swing both ways (story of my life), when I'm alone a lot, I strongly crave company, when I'm around people a lot, I crave solitude. For the most part I just need balance. Some socializing, and some alone time, that is when I'm the happiest.
 

CynicalSquid

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I'm introverted, but I still have some extroverted qualities. Most of the time I'd rather be alone, lost in my own little world, but sometimes I don't mind socializing. I actually feel the need to be social sometimes. I feel that socializing is somewhat important to me, but maybe that's because everyone needs at least one person in their life.
 
JC said:
a person may be self reluctant but then again crave to socialise in every day life

^This category best describes me.

I've always wanted to be an active, social person, but I'm nervous about interacting with others. It's not a concern about what they think about me, but adapting myself to the people I'm conversing with. Every individual is unique, and requires a different introduction while maintaining the same key points I want others to know about me. For someone who's always tried to sharpen his memory, the prospect of always changing scenarios is frightening. It's much easier for me to stay in my "safe zone" than open up and start a meaningful conversation, or even more importantly, develop a lasting relationship.
 

Mercedes

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So important! Absolutely hate being alone at all, if I'm in the house alone I'm on the computer talking to friends or on the phone, so going out to socialise with friends or meet new people is something I absolutely love to do! Can be a bit shy but if it's a night out with all the girls and lads then that's never a problem. :) So, I think it's very important to me and I think socialising, and learning how to speak to people and stuff, is also an important life skill! Knowing how to interact and stuff, lots of people nowadays are quite socially awkward and I think just need to get out there a bit more.
 

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I don't really like socializing with other people, so I really think that socializing isn't that important. But I'll always do it when I feel like it. I like to be lonely now and then. However, I do try and socialize someone when I want to try and make a new friendship and also, I'll talk to the person often when I get used to that person. I may be an introvert, but I do have a bit of extrovert in me.

In life, we just need a simple someone to talk to.
 

Beauts

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I'm the same as Mercedes. I love socialising.

It is very important to me that I spend time with other people, get out and about, and have company. I am shy for like the first 10 seconds of meeting someone lol, but seriously, I'm not one of those people who is at the centre of the attention or anything, but I am a very social person. I don't like being on my own, and I especially realised that when I had my breakdown earlier this year- I isolated myself from people and it only made me worse. I don't think being anti-social or too introverted is healthy. You have to be able to talk to people, and see the world. Shutting yourself off from people is very bad for your mental health, even if you don't have general mental health problems. Of course being shy is different from being anti-social, but I think it's extremely negative to be against socialising for the sake of it. You might not want to hang out with big groups or in certain situations, or not feel comfortable with people you don't know, but it's a fact of life that these things arise and you should learn to deal with it and enjoy it as much as you can rather than avoiding it altogether.

Also, I would just like to add, I was very shy when I was younger, up until I was like 16, just because I felt self-conscious around people I didn't know. However, I basically made the decision for myself to come out of my shell because it was for that reason that I didn't get invited to things a lot, that everyone had this impression I was no fun or that I was a loner. None of that was true, and I got sick of people thinking that. I forced myself at first to be more confident, and eventually I just started to feel that way naturally when I realised other people really aren't that different or hard to talk to. It's kind of like, the impression I decided to give on the outside really improved the way I felt on the inside, because people treat you differently when you come across as confident and social. They tend to treat you better, and that makes you feel better too.
 
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Eduarda

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Again, this question can be answered in three different ways because I have 3 different sides to me.

At school:
At school, I'm an obvious introvert. I don't like talking to others and would much rather just be lost in my thoughts. Whenever someone tries to talk to me, I start panicking for some reason. I would rather if they leave me alone :P I don't like answering questions. Even if I know the answer, I stay quiet. If we have a choice to do group work, or work individually, I guess it depends. I always chose individually. I don't like talking, and would rather do my work silently. But last semester, I chose to do my assignments with my friend, Luna, for Flexography class. I didn't mind speaking to her. Which is strange, because I usually don't like talking.

At home:
At home, I guess I can say that I am still an introvert, but I am comfortable being an extrovert. It's not like I need to talk to my family. If they start a conversation with me, I would try to continue it. I do like silence, but I really don't mind talking. They are my family after all. Lots of times, I start conversations too. So I guess I'm a bit of both. Introvert and extrovert at home.

Online:
It's like a step ladder. I have my introvertness on all stages; at school, at home, and online, yet with each step my level of comfort with talking to others increases. Online, I am probably more likely to talk than at home. I don't usually start a conversation. Like I don't go to a random person's profile and say something - other than wishing them a happy birthday, but that doesn't count. So I guess that's where my little bit of introvertness is online. But if someone starts a conversation with me, I would try to continue it. I also feel more open online. I feel like I can express myself better with the written word, than the spoken word. So that's why my online friends more more closer to me than my real life ones. I would never be able to talk to my real life friends as much as I do to my friends online.

I realized it's importance in today's world, but for me personally, I would rather prefer silence in real life. Which isn't good. But meh.
 

Moonstone

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I'm a total introvert, and, like Spirit, live with the only person of importance to me. However, I do understand that social interaction is important, so I try to make a point of doing so.
 

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