Mike Pothier
Lord Shaper
- Joined
- Apr 5, 2008
- Location
- Southern California
The reason why these things can be more hurtful within a serious relationship, is because that person is one of the most important people in your life - which results in them being able to hurt you more than anyone else, even if they fail to realize so.
I can't stress how true this is. My wife and I are so in tune, its sometimes unsettling how often we think the exact same thing at the same time.
And since I'm so close to her, she can cut right through every defense I have and hurt me without even trying. All it takes is one flippant comment or a certain look. No other person has ever effected me like this. Hell, I'm usually a very laid back and easy going guy. Nothing anybody ever said to me before ever effected me.
Its not pretty, or easy, in our relationship. Because we're so attuned to each other, we fight more often then we probably should, but we work at it. I wouldn't want to fight with anyone else.