Lots of us have lots of problems; mental, physical and often difficult relationships with others, but have you ever been able to identify a personal problem yourself and seek help for them or have people helped you realise them?
Same, quite frankly. I'm happy with who I am, and if people have an issue with that, then I don't need that negativity in my life.Well my personal problems are pretty much all caused by other people. If you for some reason think whatever flaws I have are bad then that's your problem not mine at the end of the day. The way I am works for me.
Not that I'm perfect, mind you, just content with who I am.I have a pretty good handle on what my problems are at this point. I suppose that my father more so when I was younger was pretty active in bringing them to my attention so that's probably where this sometimes crippling self-awareness comes from. Some of them I'm at the center of and some of them are as Deus put it, caused by other people.
I don't really seek help from others for them however. I admit from time to time people have come along who did help me with some of my problems. Once in awhile my penchant for bull****ting myself has been helped by a swift kick in the pants from my father. But for the most part I manage to grow, change, adapt, and become more my "best self" without the help of others.
Not to say observing others hasn't helped and that some people have come and gone from my life that did help me deeply. But they are by far rarities and usually weren't trying to help me. The majority damaged, disappointed, and made me realize how self-centered most people are.
But, also, I don't buy this semi-radical notion from Deus and Horror God Face that they're perfect just the way they are and if you don't like them at their worst, you don't deserve them at their best. Ya'll white girls be trippin'. If you ain't a problem for yourself then you be mad complacent or in a room full of really really tragically stupid people. And the latter makes you just as stupid because you stayed in that room instead of finding new challenges.