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Have you ever been able to identify your own personal problems?

Spirit

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Lots of us have lots of problems; mental, physical and often difficult relationships with others, but have you ever been able to identify a personal problem yourself and seek help for them or have people helped you realise them?
 
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I’ve been able to recognize my own issues and also have people help me realize them. Recognizing them on your own is one thing, but having the strength to change and work on those things is another..
 

Dizzi

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I have a cold and i recognise that i need lotsa tissues....
 

Sheikah_Witch

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I have been able to identify them, but whoa it took some time. I went through the first 21 years of my life not knowing I was autistic and experienced tons and tons of anxiety, social alienation and even bullying without knowing why. It took several online diagnostic tests to take those first steps, and then both mutual friends and specialist therapists have helped me realize how my diagnosis work and how to identify the mental struggles I'm currently having. Then it took some personal experience to help realize stuff on my own too, like both what it is I do that might not be considered appropriate and how to handle that, but also why some people are ignorant and prejudiced and how to combat that.

But aside from that there's still a lot of things I just can't put my finger on, like why I sometimes just don't have the energy to do certain things even though I'm interested in them or why I still feel lonely and socially alienated even when I'm with friends .. or some anxiety outbreaks that seemingly comes from nowhere. But I still feel that I have come a long way in understanding myself, on the whole.
 
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Beauts

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I’ve always been aware of issues like my mental health etc. As I’ve gotten older I’ve realised my own interpersonal problems too. I’m not great in relationships because I’m not open about how I feel even with myself let alone another person. I can be too headstrong and don’t really listen to other people lol. But I don’t think that every “problem” exists to be somehow resolved. I think the biggest challenge most people face is accepting that they’re not perfect. We will all always be flawed. You can only try to live your life without letting those flaws mess things up too much.
 

Deus

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Well my personal problems are pretty much all caused by other people. If you for some reason think whatever flaws I have are bad then that's your problem not mine at the end of the day. The way I am works for me.
 

TheGreatCthulhu

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Well my personal problems are pretty much all caused by other people. If you for some reason think whatever flaws I have are bad then that's your problem not mine at the end of the day. The way I am works for me.
Same, quite frankly. I'm happy with who I am, and if people have an issue with that, then I don't need that negativity in my life.
 

Misty

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I have a pretty good handle on what my problems are at this point. I suppose that my father more so when I was younger was pretty active in bringing them to my attention so that's probably where this sometimes crippling self-awareness comes from. Some of them I'm at the center of and some of them are as Deus put it, caused by other people.

I don't really seek help from others for them however. I admit from time to time people have come along who did help me with some of my problems. Once in awhile my penchant for bull****ting myself has been helped by a swift kick in the pants from my father. But for the most part I manage to grow, change, adapt, and become more my "best self" without the help of others.

Not to say observing others hasn't helped and that some people have come and gone from my life that did help me deeply. But they are by far rarities and usually weren't trying to help me. The majority damaged, disappointed, and made me realize how self-centered most people are.

But, also, I don't buy this semi-radical notion from Deus and Horror God Face :) that they're perfect just the way they are and if you don't like them at their worst, you don't deserve them at their best. Ya'll white girls be trippin'. If you ain't a problem for yourself then you be mad complacent or in a room full of really really tragically stupid people. And the latter makes you just as stupid because you stayed in that room instead of finding new challenges.
 

TheGreatCthulhu

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I have a pretty good handle on what my problems are at this point. I suppose that my father more so when I was younger was pretty active in bringing them to my attention so that's probably where this sometimes crippling self-awareness comes from. Some of them I'm at the center of and some of them are as Deus put it, caused by other people.

I don't really seek help from others for them however. I admit from time to time people have come along who did help me with some of my problems. Once in awhile my penchant for bull****ting myself has been helped by a swift kick in the pants from my father. But for the most part I manage to grow, change, adapt, and become more my "best self" without the help of others.

Not to say observing others hasn't helped and that some people have come and gone from my life that did help me deeply. But they are by far rarities and usually weren't trying to help me. The majority damaged, disappointed, and made me realize how self-centered most people are.

But, also, I don't buy this semi-radical notion from Deus and Horror God Face :) that they're perfect just the way they are and if you don't like them at their worst, you don't deserve them at their best. Ya'll white girls be trippin'. If you ain't a problem for yourself then you be mad complacent or in a room full of really really tragically stupid people. And the latter makes you just as stupid because you stayed in that room instead of finding new challenges.
Not that I'm perfect, mind you, just content with who I am.

Everyone has problems, but the only person capable of fixing those problems is yourself.
 

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