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Are You Still Close with the Majority of Friends from Uni or School ?

Dan

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noticed this year in particular, that the majority of my friends from home (school and such) seem to have disbanded too.

Pretty sure it's just a part of getting older, but is it similar for you ?
 

Chilfo Freeze

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I just finished my sophomore year of college, and I have to say that I have parted ways with some of my friends from high school.

It really is true when they say that you find yourself when you attend college. Living away from home and experiencing life on your own for the first time changes you, whether it is for better or for worse. I was able to find, through my experiences, some of my best friends in college that I know will last my whole lifetime. College has also changed me for the better; it has made me much more social and open to others, and I am so thankful for that. I have been able to become a person that I know and love.

Due to experiences in leaving high school and developing in other areas of life, everyone can change in some way. I've lost a couple of high school friends, but I realized that the ones that I have kept from high school are the ones that I truly connect with and relate to. Losing friends is inevitable, but as you grow, you gain many more friends along the way that know exactly who you are and love you for you as well.
 

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I'm still close with the friends I had in those years that really mattered to me. But life does happen, and some people grow apart and it's natural that not every friendship you make during those years and earlier stay strong over the years. I have two friends from jr. high that I'm still really close with, a couple from college (most of my high school friends have more fallen off the face of the planet), and the rest of my friends are people I've gotten to know through other ways or after college.
 

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I have no contact with anybody from school anymore. Life goes on. And they grow up, move away and do other things and the same here of course. You'll gain other friends and they stuck with you for life. I'm still very close friends with my former coworker. Even though we both don't work at the same place anymore for years now we still have contact on nearly a daily base.
 
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Recently finished sophomore year of college myself and I haven't really maintained close relationships with anyone I knew in high school. I only had a few close friends in those days to begin with, and it was inevitable that we grew apart, for a number of reasons. The biggest influence on our separation was the fact that they all went to the same college after high school and I opted to go somewhere else, and on top of that they're literally always busy because of the 'three-months-school, three-months-co-op and repeat with no break in between' system their school operates under. Of course, it boils down to my lack of initiative to keep in contact with them (bar one person, kind of) and vice versa. I can't say that I'm devastated about losing touch with my old friends, though, because I've never wanted a very social life anyway.

Regarding college friends, I've yet to make any, so I can't really comment there.
 

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I still keep in touch with a few friends from school, some more than others. Even though my close friends act like ***** sometimes, they're still my friends at the end of the day. I don't tend to really go out with them that much jus because of their lifestyle; I'm not into doing drugs and getting into fights at this age is just immature. I keep in loose touch with others, but I pretty much abandoned Facebook as I hardly use it, so that kind of online interaction has went out the window (I rarely use it).

My college friends (English College, so from when I was 16-18) I like to keep in touch with, or should I say I would have liked too. I made some great friends there even in that short space of time as you basically go from a kid to an adult in that time. However, it's been so hard to stay in touch as everyone went their separate ways, some went on to do apprenticeships, while most went on to different Universities. University is just so overwhelming and you're so wrapped up in it and socialising with all these new people that it makes keeping in touch hard.

I left University in like December/January, or should I say put my course on hold because I'm going on a gap year soon, so I didn't have much time to get close with my Uni friends. I only keep in touch with a few, and a couple of girls who I met on nights out and stuff. So I don't really keep in touch with that many from my short stay at Uni, but I am moving on anyway soon so I have been trying to slowly distance myself from people as I hate the feeling of saying goodbye.
 

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I still keep in touch with a few friends from school, some more than others. Even though my close friends act like ***** sometimes, they're still my friends at the end of the day. I don't tend to really go out with them that much jus because of their lifestyle; I'm not into doing drugs and getting into fights at this age is just immature. I keep in loose touch with others, but I pretty much abandoned Facebook as I hardly use it, so that kind of online interaction has went out the window (I rarely use it).

My college friends (English College, so from when I was 16-18) I like to keep in touch with, or should I say I would have liked too. I made some great friends there even in that short space of time as you basically go from a kid to an adult in that time. However, it's been so hard to stay in touch as everyone went their separate ways, some went on to do apprenticeships, while most went on to different Universities. University is just so overwhelming and you're so wrapped up in it and socialising with all these new people that it makes keeping in touch hard.

I left University in like December/January, or should I say put my course on hold because I'm going on a gap year soon, so I didn't have much time to get close with my Uni friends. I only keep in touch with a few, and a couple of girls who I met on nights out and stuff. So I don't really keep in touch with that many from my short stay at Uni, but I am moving on anyway soon so I have been trying to slowly distance myself from people as I hate the feeling of saying goodbye.

That's so sad. :(

I hate the words moving on. I find moving on quite sad, and don't understand how many people can say it like it's no big deal.
Many of us are quite sad when a fell beloved character in a Tv-show dies, we spent time watching that character develop and grew attached to him/her, so making the move in real life should surely be harder for many. I'm still in contact with my friend I met at the age of 4, in ways we are sort of like brothers, we don't talk as much as we used to, but it's always nice to see one another.
I sometimes have dreams where I'm younger and with old friends, or I'm at my current age and still have those friends, it's pretty nice, when I wake up and realize that is now gone it leaves a horrid feeling within me, can make me a tad miserable too, it's not a common occurrence for those dreams to pop but it can happen.

I realise it is often for the best to move on. People change for better or worse, they aren't the same person you initially met all those years ago, in a sense it is a death and life that change brings.
 

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I made a facebook account so I could keep in touch with my high school friends, but I really haven't been doing that much. I still think of all of them as my friends, but I really haven't reached out to them lately.
 

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I still talk frequently with my best friends from before I moved, most of whom I haven't seen in almost 9 years! And I also keep in touch with my friends who have moved away. So no, I don't think I am going to lose connections with all of them after graduation... some maybe, but certainly not all, especially not the ones I am really close to.
 

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So and so. What I mean by that is that I still talk to some of my friends from HS, but not all of them, the majority, that is. Some have moved, others are too busy with their lives to keep up with what I do; like play sports, write, hang out at the park, etc.
 
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Well, I lost contact with a lot of my childhood friends because of moving so much. And when I left Louisiana and moved to Michigan for good, I expected not to ever see or here from them again. But then Facebook came along, and I finally got the chance to chat with a few of them and catch up. Most of them were in college by then, and well on their way to a career—even the 'eff-ups'. We no longer had anything in common with one another, so at times, chatting with them seemed awkward as hell. I eventually remembered why I hated social networks and promptly deactivated my Facebook account, and thus, lost contact with my old childhood friends.

I've only had one 'friend' friend since then, who I met in seventh grade. Both him and I tended to move a lot, but we somehow always wound up in the same neighborhood (lol). I lost contact with him a short time after we left high school, though—like, six years ago. I no longer know where he is, what he's doing, or how to get in contact with him.

I had one other friend who I knew since birth, but I lost contact with him last month. There's no chance that we'll ever meet again.
 

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just 2..or 3 i guess,all from way back in 3rd and 4th grade
though i just finished school so it could be a little too early to say,maybe we'll continue to stay in touch or maybe we'll drift way,i'm hoping its the former but who knows
 

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Well, as I'm still in High School, I'm gonna do some predicting here. Seeing as I go to a small Christian school, and there's gonna be like 18 or 19 people in my graduating class, I'm pretty sure a lot of us will stay in touch. I see all the older classes that graduated before me, and yeah they all went their separate ways, but they still hang out sometimes and some of them are still really close. I also just found out in the past month that 2 other people from my class might be going to same college I might be going to. So I'd stay in touch with them. I guess we'll just have to see, but I predict us staying close for the most part
 

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As I only did one semester of uni I can't really discuss moving apart from those people.

However, have I lost touch/become less close with my school friends? The majority, yes. I went to an all girls school and *****iness was inherent. I still encounter some friends from then now, and we don't get on. Some people have also moved away or are doing different things. However, two of my best friends are friends I've had since we started secondary, aged 11. We talk all the time and hang out, even though there was a couple of years where we barely spoke. There's also one friend who I disconnected from for years because of the aforementioned b*tches, but we've become good friends again recently and we hang out a lot because she lives nearby.

As for college (sixth form), I haven't seen any of those people since I left. Like, seriously. My college was huge compared to my school, with 4000 students compared to only 600 (just 120 girls in my year). Even from first to second year, I didn't hang out with the same people. In first year I was so ingrained with one group and then I realised I wasn't enjoying the constant drama surrounding them (plus I had a nervous breakdown in the summer before so I wasn't quite there) so in second year I was sort of a nomad, going from group to group with no close friendships really formed other than maybe one guy who I still talk to occasionally. But then obviously I went to uni and dropped out and now work full time which has alienated a lot of people. I mean, because of that, I've made friends with people 10 or more years older and some of my older friends my own age don't know how to even talk to them. Also, my life is totally different from people still studying. They look down on me because I'm a drop out but I've become way smarter and more grounded as a person than them, at an earlier stage in life, so a lot of the time I find myself kind of condescending them by accident.

I do think it's a part of growing up but also, life takes you in different directions. And sometimes I think your friendship only works in context and you can't take it out of that context, like your best friend in school could be someone you have zero in common with outside of school. Because, at the end of the day, school is not the real world and you realise that as you get older.
 
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